Published! Thank you, Scary Mommy!

Well, it doesn’t seem real, but one of my blog posts has been published on Scary Mommy!  It’s a parenting website with about 1.4 million followers!  If you’re interested, here is the link:  Being A Mom Without A Mom.

What makes this so interesting is that I didn’t write this article with the intent to publish it.  Once again, I was feeling strong emotions and just jotted this down as a blog post.  I shared it with some of my Facebook friends.  It received positive feedback.  A few of my friends encouraged me to submit it.

I was honestly on the fence about it.  This piece is about my mother.  She was an incredibly private person, so I struggled with this.  I didn’t want to do anything that would violate her personal life.  That’s the main reason I haven’t really published anything about what happened to her during her 15-year illness.  I have about 300 pages from my days of sitting next to her in the hospital, rehab facilities, nursing home and finally, in her house, under hospice care.

I don’t know if I would ever publish that.  My wounds are still too raw from the entire experience.

But I think this piece really shows how much I loved her.  And still love her.  So, I dedicate this to you, Rita.  I love you.  I miss you.  I wish you were still here.  Until we meet again.




15 thoughts on “Published! Thank you, Scary Mommy!

  1. Steph Mignon says:

    Yay! Congrats! I’ll have my second post appearing on Scary Mommy 12/13, yay for us! I’m going to go read this now. If it’s anything like that journal post you posted, I bet it’s amazing. Thinking of your during the holidays, as I bet it’s an especially hard time without your mom.

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  2. Stephanie Rigdon says:

    Your piece is so incredibly moving. I lost my mother 2 years ago and am the mother of a 2 year old and a 7 month old. She was here for my sons first 11 months of life but never met my daughter. Everything you wrote was so raw, and so true. So here I am, a mom without a mom, and I too understand the wish list. Thank you for sharing. ❤

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    • Taara Donley says:

      Stephanie, I’m so incredibly sorry for the loss of your mother…… It’s so hard. From one mom without a mom to another, I’m sending you a hug. Stay strong and remember that she lives on in your beautiful children. Thank you so much for your comment.


  3. L. R. Palmer says:

    Congratulations Taara!! You so deserve this! It was a wonderful post; I cried most of the way through it. I never had a mother but I do have a grandson, and a second one on the way, so I guess I’ve been lucky to be on all sides of this story. Hugs to you, sweet lady… Keep writing. Please and thanks!

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    • Taara Donley says:

      Thank you, Lisa. I appreciate your reading it and posting a comment. I’m sorry you never had a mother…. Did she pass away when you were too little to remember her? Please accept my heartfelt condolences. It must have been rough growing up without a mother.

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      • L. R. Palmer says:

        No, she just left us shortly after I was born, and died many years later without us ever having met. I’m ok with that, but it did make raising my daughter a harrowing experience. Having been the youngest of my siblings, I had no clue how to raise a child, but we muddled through. My daughter, on the other hand, is an exceptional mom; she is very similar to you… 🙂

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      • Taara Donley says:

        I’m so sorry, Lisa…. It hurts me to hear stories such as your own. I can’t fathom anyone leaving his or her child. It seems unreal to me. But it sounds as if you are a very strong person. Your daughter is fortunate to have you as her mother. Congratulations on the forthcoming grandchild!

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  4. Jen says:

    I lost my mom when I was 8 months pregnant with my first daughter — and have since had my second. While I hate being a part of this “club,” it’s always so comforting to know I’m not alone. Thanks for your wonderful piece of writing!

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    • Taara Donley says:

      Hi Jen, I’m so sorry for the loss of your mother….. And at such an important time in your life. I share similar feelings to you. I take comfort in knowing that I am not alone. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and post a comment. Sending you a hug. Stay strong, mama.


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